What is a soul call? Find out in this video.
What is a soul call? Find out in this video.
So, in order to get more information out there, I’ve asked Heather from http://intuitiveblessings.com/ to share one of her stories.
Thank you Heather for taking the time to share this.
My experiences with Soul Calls are that I never purposefully go looking for them, they just find me. I feel a strong attraction to a person and begin to feel things about them to the point of it becoming an obsession! I feel like I am being guided by a higher power to take action. My human ego self wants to run, but some unexplainable force compels me to stay. I have looked back over letters I have sent to complete strangers and think to myself, “I wrote that?!?!” “That doesn’t even sound like something I would say!” When I read your post on Soul Calls I could totally relate! I have always called them S.O.S calls
One recent call had a tremendous impact on me due to the validation and appreciation I received in return. I order lunch meat at the local supermarket every week. One day I happened to really look at Mr. Deli Guy and without consciously doing so, I began to “feel…empath…read” (whatever you call it) him and instantly felt his energy. I don’t understand how or why this happens. I don’t understand how or why certain people seem to send out an S.O.S and without fail, I intuitively answer. Before I know it or can stop it, I am instantly attached to a stranger on an intimate level of “knowing” things I shouldn’t know about someone I only order turkey from! Suddenly, this man I have never paid any mind to has fully been brought into my awareness.
I could not get deli guy out of my head. His eyes hid a pain only I could see. I could feel his hurt, his disappointment, his loneliness. Thoughts came into my head like, “He is probably divorced, I think he might use alcohol to numb his pain, I feel like he is genuinely a good person but he can’t see it.” All of these thoughts and feelings I was experiencing without any exchange of words. Was I nuts? Was I imagining things? Why do I do this? What the hell is wrong with me?!?! Just like I have done in years past, I dismissed it and tried to get deli guy out of my head!
Weeks pass, and on my visit deli guy who I never have talked to, sees me and suddenly comes out from behind the counter and starts literally vomiting all this info. He explained to me that a few years ago, he had been laid off from a highly regarded aeronautics company. He had been an engineer there. He then proceeded to explain how he went from being an engineer to a deli guy. I was so taken aback by his disclosure, I don’t even remember what my response was, but I remember how I felt. My heart ached, I knew exactly why he was telling all of this to me – he feared judgment, he had no self confidence, he felt like a failure.
I left without really responding to deli guy because I was so taken aback by the encounter. Losing his job must have taken away a huge part of himself along with it. There was so much I wanted to tell him but that is not something one tells to a complete stranger!!! Well, as hard as I fought NOT telling him those things, that unexplainable pull would not go away. I was completely out of my comfort zone. I don’t do this kind of thing. I don’t even know this man, yet I intimately know so much. It’s maddening.
More weeks passed and then I couldn’t stand it any longer so I ap
proached him… “Deli guy, remember that day when you told me about losing your job? Well, something has really been bothering me and I just felt like I should tell you. I want you to know that you are more than your job. I don’t judge you for where you work and neither should anyone else.” His face softened and he proceeded to tell me how he used to go golfing every week with a group of buddies that don’t talk to him anymore. I acknowledged how incredibly hurtful and hard that must have been. No one should treat him like that and they were not real friends. People should love and respect him for who he is no matter what the job title. He hugged me and thanked me and I was on my way.
The next week when I went to the store, he literally sprang across the counter to greet me. “You will NEVER guess what happened after you talked to me that day… Remember the friends that deserted me after I was laid off? Two days after our conversation, one of my old buddies called me and asked me to go golfing! I hadn’t spoken to him in over 3 years!” His eyes were filled with tears, “I don’t know who you are or how the planets aligned to make that happened, but you are like some “Cosmic angel” It touched me so deeply I can’t ever thank you enough!” He hugged me three times and kept wiping tears from his eyes. Little did he know, he wasn’t the only one who got a gift that day!
We’ve discussed how Soul Calls are a call for help to the universe, and how they may be answered, and I thought it would be worth discussing what they are not, and what they can’t be used for.
Someone once asked me if they could be used to draw a person to you, or to make someone fall in love you.
The short answer is, no.
The long answer is, when a Soul Call goes out, you are asking for help to your problem. The one who responds is generally the most qualified person to help.
More often than not, this might be someone you don’t expect, or someone you have not even met yet.
When they come into your life, you may even be resistant to them because you are looking for something else.
However, you wouldn’t contract a plumber to fix your electrical fixtures. The same holds true for soul calls.
To use them as a tool to try and manipulate others simply does not work, and why would you want to do so in any case? Would you really want to make someone fall in love with you and act in a way that is not in keeping with their own soul?
Having said all that, you can actually call for someone who is right for you if you are after a relationship. It may not be the person you desire (and more often than not, the one you want right now may not be best for you on a long term basis) but they will come.
Also, it’s important to be aware that sometimes you will need to go through, and experience things that will make you ready for this person. This may take more time than you might like or expect, but what you will learn, and gain, will be very important for the longevity of your relationship. Timing is everything.
And even if you are ready, the partner may not appear right away, either.
To illustrate this point, I’ll share one of my own experiences.
My first marriage was a soul call, and while I already foresaw that it would end before it even began, I also knew that in order for me to get to where I am now, I had to follow my feelings and trust that it would work out as it was meant to.
I learned a lot from it, gained a lot, and when the time came, we went our separate ways because we had diverged so much from the paths we started on.
I gave myself a long time to be alone, enjoy my own company, and just do the things I wanted without feeling the pull of others around me.
Six or so years later, I felt I was ready for another relationship and I sent out a call saying that I was ready, come and find me. At the time, I had quite a few potential women who were interested in me, but none of them felt right, so I didn’t encourage anything.
I then felt I needed to create an eHarmony (Online matchmaking service) account, and I joined for 3 months, but had no draws to anyone. I did meet one or two, and they showed interest, but I knew they were not for me.
Then after six months, I felt a strong pull to reactivate my membership. I waited until there was a special on (which saved me a lot of money) and re-joined.
I knew I was looking for something, but wasn’t sure what. I went through about 400 profiles until I hit one that just drew me. I went through the contact procedure, and when she answered back, I felt right away that I had found who I was looking for.
Today she is my partner, but the thing I wanted to point out here is that there was a reason it took six months to meet her.
When I sent out the Soul Call, she was in another country. She was considering what she wanted to do next in her career path when this offer from Australia came up and the offer she really wanted to follow fell through.
So she ended up in Melbourne, Australia. The timing of meeting was just right.
When you send out a Soul Call, it will be answered, and it will be the right answer. You just have to trust the process.
You might wonder (or not) if there is any benefit to answering a soul call. It can be a lot of work, and while the pay offs might be rewarding at times, there will be other times where you feel it’s just been a waste of your time and effort because nothing seems to change.
If you’re altruistic, you won’t care if you get something out of it. Still, there are definite benefits to answering soul calls.
I guess the easiest way to illustrate this is to tell my own experiences.
My first call was back in 1987, where I felt a compulsion to aid this lady I was friends with. She had major traumas, and I felt I could help her. As I had no clue what I was doing, I fumbled around for a few weeks, trying different things until finally I got to the answers.
They’re not relevant to this topic, but I gained two things from that initial experience.
The first was realizing that I could connect to other people, and that was a bad idea, as they could drag you under with them if you didn’t disconnect. I swore I would never allow that to happen again. I did not know the word ‘empath’ back then, but I now knew I was one .
The other thing that happened was that my guides stepped in, and just plain outright told me the answers. This was a really intense experience, and everything was right on the money. Ironically, I dismissed this experience as having guides wasn’t part of my belief system at the time. However, the experience was very real and showed me there was something outside myself.
The second soul call happened in 1994- 95. That was a success, and it gave me quite a few gifts in return.
I was introduced to the Bach Flower Remedies through the lady I was helping.
I gained knowledge that put me firmly on this current path.
I was introduced to people that I needed to meet in order to fulfil a soul contract which had been part of my life till then.
It sparked the dark night of the soul event that allowed me to let go of my old and redundant belief system and embrace a much healthier one.
It made me realize there was much, much more to myself than I had ever suspected. When I finally understood what I had to do, I knew how to do it, and it felt like slipping into a pair of well worn shoes. It opened doors.
And while it is true that the appreciate factor of these people wasn’t all that high, what I took away with me was something money can’t buy.
A Soul Call is not only a chance to help someone else, but an opportunity to grow and gain valuable insight into who you are, what you can do, and to progress along your chosen path.
Next: What a Soul Call is not.
One of the things with Soul Calls is that you may feel very awkward or embarrassed passing the message on. The Fear of looking foolish or deluded tends to stop us from doing so.
For instance, I deal with people who are sometimes under, what you could term, Psychic Attacks. This is a topic for another blog, but in short, it’s an attack from another person, or something in the astral that is dong on a mental level.
I know they are real. I’ve spent my entire life learning about, and dealing with them, but try telling someone, who you don’t know, that they are under psychic attack.
Not only does it sound crazy, but you would feel that the chances are that they will question your sanity and credibility.
And yet, that’s exactly what I’ve had to do from time to time. As I know better nowadays to ignore such calls, I just pass on the message, and explain what I’m getting. I’ve yet to have someone tell me that I’m crazy. In fact, I get the opposite. They say: that makes sense and explains a lot.
Fortunately, not everything sounds as crazy, but even telling someone they are possibly an Empath can be a challenge.
I have noted that as it’s the message they need to hear, the chances of them actually dismissing you as a nutter are very small. At least in my experience and I’ve had 100s of such calls.
Generally, I find that people shift in and out of your life as needed. I cannot recall the amount of people I’ve been called on to help, and who have moved on just as quickly. From time to time, I might hear from them, and be told that I’ve made a difference. That’s always heartening to know.
I’ve also sent out Soul Calls, too. The thing that amazes me is how quickly they can be answered. I’ve seen it as fast as the next day when I’ve asked for answers to a question I needed to know.
Every so often, I’ll put out a call for my soul family to come and find me, and sure enough, they will do so. I’ve even had people tell me that they felt a compulsion to contact me, even though they weren’t sure if I would even read their e-mails.
Anyone reading this particular entry is not doing it by chance. It is because it contains information that you will need at some point.
Nothing is random.
Right now, my main pull it is to put out as much information as I can, on this blog, about Empaths, Depression, Healing, and many other subjects. I don’t know how many will read it. I guess that doesn’t matter. I know that those who need to find it will.
Next: What do you get out of a soul call?
Not all Soul Calls need be major events. Some can be, and they can last years, but sometimes it can be as simple as just passing on a message.
Sometimes it can be a little more complex, such as a need to help someone get to a safe place in their life.
Other times, it’s to guide someone to a new level.
But really, it can be anything. It varies in nature, and how well it is answered depends on if the one answering the call understands what is happening.
It might be just a word that needs to be said. A quick explanation of something you happen to know, or it could be a major long term situation.
But how do you know if it is a soul call or just a natural attraction to someone?
That can be tricky, especially if you are an Empath, and you can’t discern your own feelings from those of another.
When I feel a call, it starts off rather innocuously. It can be just urge to read something, or maybe watch something on television that is out of your normal habits. That may lead to gaining certain pieces of information that you might need soon after, when someone else is searching for it.
For instance, one of my first major souls calls occurred because I was seeking to alleviate the of a 20 year old shoulder injury. I passed a natural healing shop, felt I should try it out, and got drawn into something that lasted around nine months.
And it was all because of that shoulder injury.
However, it should be worth noting: Nothing is random.
The challenge is how do you tell someone what they need to hear? How do you do what is needed for those calling? In order for the call to be completed, you need to pass on what you feel the draw or compulsion to do.
After that, nothing more need be done.
The time does vary greatly, and it’s possible to get several calls at once, but they tend to be of a shorter nature.
I seem to get many such calls, and sometimes I’ll browse groups with the feeling I’m looking for something, and I can’t stop until I find it. Once I’ve found it, I will know because I suddenly no longer feel the need to do so.
Right now, my main calls seem to consist of telling people they may be an Empath, or giving them a way out of a deep depression. Of course, whether they choose to listen or not is another matter, but it is still important that I do my part.
Next: Part 3 – Dealing with the fear of answering.
There are many Empaths who are on a path where they have an overwhelming desire to help and heal others. Some choose to put themselves in the service of God (or whatever force they believe in) while others work to help those who ask for it, or need it.
From time to time, they will get what is called a Soul Call.
There isn’t much information about on this subject for some reason.
I’ve known this terms for a long time and understood what it meant, but searching on the web, it seems that there is no information there (apart from what I’ve put there myself) and I find this odd, but then again, when I started with putting Empath information on the web, I was the only one who had done it at that point, and now it’s got many resources. Maybe this subject will go the same way.
So, what is a soul call?
I define it as follows:
A soul call is a cry for help from one soul to another. It is a desire, a prayer, a request to the universe, to God, or whatever you have chosen to believe in, to bring aid and help deliver the caller from their current situation.
I believe that no prayer goes unanswered. It may not be answered in the way you expect it to be, and you may choose to ignore the answer because you don’t agree with it, (at least at the time) but it does get answered.
One of the ways is the Soul Call.
Someone may be in a very dark place, they see no way out, they have lost all hope, and they cry out for help.
The person who has agreed to be of service, or seeks to help others, or even wishes to grow in spirit, will feel an unmistakable pull towards the caller.
At its strongest, a soul call will feel like the helper is falling in love with the caller. They will feel a strong compulsion to see the person, find out their history, know all they can about them, and take every opportunity to be with them.
If they try to ignore this feeling, it will get stronger until it is almost irresistible.
Misunderstood, a soul call might turn into a romantic relationship, which tends to end once the call is completed. This can become very complicated for both parties, as they don’t understand what is really going on.
Next: Part 2 where we’ll look at the types of calls one might get.
In the last entry, I recounted how many women, who had the same type of energy, were all attracted to me and eventually, around 2012, it began to dawn on me that something wasn’t quite right there.
By that stage, I had become aware of whom I was in one of my past lives, and that I did indeed have a sister who I was married to. Mind you, I did not make any connections as yet to the past ladies who were energetically drawn to me.
All I was aware of was that logically, if I was who people said I was, then I had a wife and sister out there.
So foolishly… VERY foolishly, I sent out a soul call for her to come and find me.
It wasn’t too longer after, maybe two or three days, when suddenly I got an e-mail from this lady who lived in Canada asking me for help, claiming that her soul was in so much pain, and she wanted me to contact her.
I never refuse a call for help, but she insisted that I ring her up within an hour of responding to her.
The moment I connected to was when I knew she was part of my soul family. I wasn’t quite sure exactly who, but within a few hours, I was very certain she was my past life sister.
So, like a fool, I suggested it to her, and it was like a dam burst. She told me that it was me she has been feeling, and had been looking for me so she could stop the feelings.
She remembered events that I had only thought were part of my imagination and if I had any doubts about it not being her, her e-mail address gave it away, as it described the exact thing she was associated with.
She told me: I shall let you choose your path. And I will never try to influence you. I think this affected me a lot more than it did to you
You forgot one thing that I was your wife and your decisions affected me. You decided to do things without thinking about me. I wish you would think how I would feel. But I don’t know why that meant we were not together. I still can’t accept it.
She was also strongly pushing me to go over and be with her. I knew, though, this would be a very bad idea.
If I had thought that other avatars were hard to resist, she left them for dead. She had the looks, energy, intelligence and power, but I also knew she would not be good for me. If I dropped everything and ran off to be with her, it wouldn’t be too long before things went pear shaped, and I would regret it.
I told her that I couldn’t give her what she wanted, and she was not happy.
I didn’t hear too much from her after that and I felt something shift from her energies, as though the spirit had left.
She cut off everyone associated with me and moved on. And so did I.
So, I asked my guide about what was really going on here. The response was that over the course of my lifetime, she had been obsessed with me, but at the same time seeking revenge for being jilted, and had been using her avatars to connect to me whenever there was an opportunity to.
The thing I discovered was that she was pretty much everything I wasn’t. One of my friends noted she was pretty much the opposite of who I was, and what I did.
I realised that she would have been unhealthy for me on many level, including her obsessiveness and that fact that we both had completely different outlooks and ways of doing things.
She would not have allowed me to even talk to others, let alone work with them and help them.
There’s a lot more I could say about this particular case, but I’d rather not.
The point I’m trying to illustrate here is that your twin soul does not automatically mean a healthy relationship. There’s a reason why we don’t both incarnate at the same time.
I do not know if this is the last I’ll hear from her but personally, I feel that there is no gain for me to be with her in this life time.
Many of us have heard of the twin soul and many more are in search of theirs.
But what exactly is a twin soul? It is said to be the other half of your soul aspect. Whereas you’ve incarnated as a male or female (or maybe both or neither!) the other half is the other part of who you are.
As a general rule, and from my observations, it’s actually very rare for both soul aspects to be born at the same time.
However, it wouldn’t be unusual to mistake a soul mate as a twin soul.
In theory, finding the other half of your soul essence sounds like a wonderful thing to happen to you. It would make you feel complete and you would be in harmony with the other person’s ideas and desires.
That’s the fantasy.
The reality is a little different, though.
Should you come across your literal other half, it will feel like two magnets pulling each other together. There will most likely be sexual energy on a very intense level, and it will be very hard to resist, even if you’re already in a relationship.
Now, I can’t speak for others of course, but I can speak for myself, and the experiences I’ve had in regards to this.
I don’t normally share this story, but I figured what the hey: I’m trying to illustrate a point here.
My twin soul hasn’t actually incarnated at this time that I’m aware of, but it would seem that she has been using Avatars: That is, women who carry her energies.
I first noticed this around the year 2000, where I met someone, who happened to be local and felt this crazy energy connection with her. On top of that, she looked amazing and was irresistibly beautiful. Being married at the time, she was very hard to resist, but I can claim to have resisted. Interesting enough, someone had told her that we had been brother and sister in a past life. In any case, I stopped seeing her as a friend, and we drifted apart.
The same thing occurred a couple of years later, where this lady I knew online made the same energetic connections with me. It didn’t matter that she was in a different country, the pull was just as strong, and was just as hard to resist. Also, the same intense physical attraction was there, too.
At the time, she claimed she loved me so much that it hurt, but as I still married (in spite of my relationship being on the outs by then) I didn’t feel it was right to do anything.
What was interesting about this case, though, was soon after, she told me that what was causing her intense feeling was that an insane spirit that loved me had attached herself to her, and using her to get to me. With the help of one of her psychic friends, she had managed to remove it, and the feeling left her.
I shrugged, thought nothing of it, and carried on. We did try to see if there was a chance for a relationship after I separated, but it didn’t work out as she become almost psychotic in nature and seemed to drain my energies.
Then a year later, another lady appeared who I was drawn to in the same way. Except she was in a relationship she felt she had to deal with, and said she couldn’t talk to me because a connection formed that her partner would feel and call her on.
She was adamant, though, she had been my sister in a past life and we had children together.
The same type of thing happened three more times, and curiously enough, it was right after I met my current partner. Same pull, same attraction, same energies
I thought to myself, okay, I’m not that good looking and this is too good to be true. Something is clearly going on here.
However, it wasn’t until 2012 that I finally understood what.
Next: What was going on.
Over-concern for others.
Empaths often get depressed in regards to other people.
It might be for the person who has gone to buy a special present for someone, only to have gotten it very wrong, due to lack of knowledge. You may feel bad for them because you feel all the effort they put into it has gone to waste. You wish things had worked out for them with all that work, and it makes you feel, sad, bad and terribly depressed.
Perhaps you might be worried about a friend or a loved one in regards to how life is going for them, or if they are doing well or not.
If we fear something is wrong with them, we, ourselves, may feel anxious, and will not be able to rest until we are reassured that all is well. We tend to experience that awful sinking feeling of anxiety in the pit of our stomach until we hear some news that reassures us.
This is especially true for empaths with children who are out late or their partner has not returned at the normal time. We immediately imagine the worst and fear that something terrible has happened.
It’s hard to disassociate ourselves from the fear to check on your feelings, as we are too attached to the outcome, and that colours what we are feeling.
Intuition works well, but if it’s tainted by our fears, it can make us feel things which aren’t true. It’s hard to step back and be objective in these kind of situations as we tend to have too much of our own selves invested in our relationships.
For some empaths, they often don’t feel good unless others are feeling good. If they are having a rough time, we will put our own happiness on hold until they are doing better.
This is not healthy as it not only hurt you, but actually makes things worse for those you are concerned about. Not only do they have to deal with their own problems, but they also have to take you into account, putting pressure on them.
I know, from personal experience, that I can’t have a bad day without everyone around me going into melt down over it. It drives me crazy. Sometimes I just want to work through things, and not have to go into damage control because of it. Sometimes I just want to have a bad day and work through my feelings.
People have bad days. People need bad days. They need those times to let out their frustration. Or maybe they just aren’t feeling well. It doesn’t really matter what the reason is, it’s important to give them space to be, and show that they are supported, without making it into something it isn’t.
Of course, being empaths, we can’t help but care.
I would suggest that the key to dealing with this is to understand that the other person does know exactly what they are doing on a soul level. Everything is as it should be; even those really crappy events that seem to crop up in one’s life. If you can know and accept this, and know it in your heart, then you can let go of the fear, and understand that they are living their life as needed.
Bach Flower Remedy:
The dark night of the soul.
The dark night of the soul, as it is called, is a very traumatic and severe type of depression. It feels like your entire world is coming apart. Whatever hope you once held has been lost and all you can do it hang on for dear life, and try and survive.
No matter what you do, you are overwhelmed by waves of negativity, even when you are trying to be positive.
This is a terrible state of depression. There are no obvious solutions and chances are those around you will not understand what you are feeling, because you can’t explain it to them. Some may even choose to take offence and make it about themselves.
I remember when I hit this stage. I found the people around me had varying reactions to me.
Many were oblivious that I was on the verge of a nervous breakdown. A couple asked me what was wrong and tried to help, but I truly felt there was no hope left, so they stopped trying after a couple of days. One took offense and made it a reason to have a vendetta against me, even long after the event passed.One chose to use this information against me when I confided in him.One first denied I was having any issues, and then used it was an opportunity to talk about themselves.
I had a mixed response to my dark night, but regardless, while I was in it, I didn’t feel anyone could help.
The dark night of the soul is something you can’t understand, not really, unless you’ve been through it.
But what is really going on? Why do we arrive at such a point?
What is happening is that this is our last, desperate attempt to hang onto a belief system that no longer serves us. One that has ceased to work for us for a while now, but we refuse to acknowledge it.
We hang on with all our might to what we believe should be, but really, we need to let go, and embrace a new line reality.
There are many old belief systems that might no longer be valid for us.
This could be in regards to a relationship that needs to end.
Maybe it’s time to change your lifestyle or belief system. In my particular case, I believed that I would never be loved, have a partner or find someone and I was destined to always be alone.
Today, such thoughts seem inane to me, but at the time it seemed like a very real concern. I felt I had tried everything, and everything had failed on all levels.
I was stuck in a set of beliefs that no longer were relevant to the direction I had to go. Until I was prepared to accept something greater, I would be unable to move on. However, I was so convinced I had worked it all out that I was no longer allowing growth to continue.
The dark night of the soul is actually a blessing in disguise. It heralds the start of new spiritual growth. Some say it is the doorway to true spiritual growth.
A new way. A new start. It means that it’s time to let the past go, and accept that there are things you do not know, and let new ideas come into your life.
It’s a purging. It’s a breaking of energies. And that’s what makes it so painful.
This was just before I was introduced to the Bach Flower Remedies, and so I had to get through this alone. When I finally emerged, I found that I had new hope, and things were shifting and my life was never going to be the same.
Remember, at its most extreme, Yin will become Yang (and visa versa). They say it is darkest before the dawn, and this is true.
If you are experiencing your own dark night, know that things will get better and it may herald a much greater and amazing journey.
Bach Flower Remedy:
Sweet Chestnut is the remedy for this state. It allows you to embrace a new belief system, and let go of the old one, without breaking you.
It works well with Walnut, which is the remedy for change.
Last post, I relayed my rare experience of getting a prediction that actually came true.
All that aside, getting answers to questions is not as quick and easy as just asking someone. At least, an answer that is useful and meaningful. Sometimes I can, for whatever reason, just see how things will pan out, and they do so as I foresaw, but it can be hit and miss. There are too many variables. But getting information on demand is not something I can easily do.
Now, I have heard of people who get very strong messages to pass on to others, and I would say that fall under the category of soul calls.
I’ve certainly had that from time to time, too. I’ll have a strong pull to pass on a message. I don’t know if the source is a guide, a departed one or just a call for what someone needs to hear, but when the pull is strong, I will always answer it.
Then there are the times when I do get an answer, and it’s not the one I was expecting. Sometimes I’ll get told that the person is making something up and I then feel like an idiot for believing them in the first place.
Even though I can sense truth, I tend to put myself in a space where I’m open to what someone tells me (as I do not judge), though at times, I often get a sense of anxiety when something isn’t right, but I tend to ignore it if the person seems to believe what they are telling me.
The problem then is, what do I say when I find out someone isn’t being truthful with me? Do I call them on it and tell them that they are embellishing their story or do I fade away from their lives?
Sometimes it’s just a matter of people exaggerating the truth.
The point really is, though, that just because you have a guide or you are in contact with a spirit, it doesn’t mean you have all the answers, or even some of them.
Generally, I find that there are several factors in getting correct information.
It depends on:
I’ve certainly fallen prey to all of the above at various points in my life. The stories told to me from my guides were ‘dumbed’ down at the time because I just couldn’t accept anything else. Even then, what was told was hard enough to believe (in spite of all the evidence supporting things.) When I received clarification later on, I found that it was the same story, except it was more fully fleshed out.
Sometimes, you just have to admit that you don’t know the answers, at least not yet. Sometimes it might take decades to reach a place where you do and sometimes it may not happen at all in your current life.
Letting go of preconceived ideas and ego can be terribly difficult, especially as we don’t like to be wrong, and we feel our own credibility is on the line. There’s also this odd perception that psychic people can do everything all the time and without any effort. That simply is not the case. I doubt there’s a single psychic out there that can be ‘on’ all the time without suffering severe burn out or will not get very ill because of it.
There have certainly been enough times where I’ve found out I’ve been wrong to make me question just how psychic I might be and just where those thoughts in my mind are coming from. Are they mine, or do they really come from a guide?
But then, I’ve also had really specific information given to me from time to time that I find out later that it was true.
Those are really wow moment for me. Generic information is easy. Anyone can do that. Specific information, now that’s a talent.
Anyone can say: My dear, I see you’ve had some trauma in your life, and it’s affected you.
Well, unless you’ve lived a charmed life that would certainly apply to most anyone. Now, if you could specify the type of trauma and when, then that’s another story.
Be aware of those who claim to be of the psychic world. Be critical. It’s okay to be wrong. It’s okay to not believe. Just because there are fakers out there, it does not mean everyone is fake.
Just remember, this is not an exact science.
But we are always learning, and being wrong is just as important as being right. Look at it critically. See how you felt at the time you received your information. Did it flow? Where there any anxieties? Did you feel any resistance in passing it on? Self observation is very important to success.
It’s okay to say: Yeah, it wasn’t right this time, but at least we’ve learned something from it.
Next: Psychic Empath or Psychic Skeptic?
For instance, I get frequent requests for help by e-mail.
I would say, they would come at the rate of around four to six a month, and while not very many in the overall scheme of things, each one does take a fair enough of time to deal with as I will answer all mail I get.
Some of them are just thank you for doing what you do, e-mails, and those are always wonderful to get.
However, most are people asking for help on some level.
The type of requests I get generally fall into the below categories.
– People who are in real trouble and need help now.
– People who have genuine questions about experiences that have happened to them.
– Those who want answers to somewhat frivolous questions
– People who want answers to questions that can’t be answered.
– Those who ask the same question over and over until they get the answer they are looking for.
Let’s look at them one at a time.
People who are in real trouble and need help now
This is something that can’t be ignored. Sometimes, it is a matter of life and death, and I can feel this, so I will respond as soon as I can. Sometimes I can help the person in one reply, but more often than not, it can be a long term project until you help get their life turned around. Generally, though, it can be a very rewarding correspondence.
Contribution to psychic burn out: 1-2 out of 10
People who have genuine questions about experiences that have happened to them.
I get these ones the most. People have had experiences they can’t quite explain and are not sure what to do with them. Many of these are things like soul calls or what might be a psychic attack. I try to answer them best I can. 95% of these types of e-mails are one-offs, and I never hear from them again after I answer. As a rules, I often enjoy answering these types of questions.
Contribution to psychic burn out: 1-2 out of 10
Those who want answers to somewhat frivolous questions.
I get these occasionally and it’s generally someone who has some relationship issue that they want answered. As a rule, these e-mails tend to be very long, and (sometimes a little rambling) so it takes more time, and energy to get through it, and then work out what the question is, and what answer (if any) can be given. The relationships in question are about potential ones, and not ones that they are already in.
Personally, I find those types the hardest to answer as I don’t have clue what is going through the mind of the other party. Most of the time I don’t get any answers. Sometimes, I do, but that’s more the exception.
Contribution to psychic burn out: 6 out of 10
People who want answers to questions that can’t be answered.
I get this from time to time and I simply just don’t have answers, other than generic advice for someone. I’ve had some e-mails sit in my inbox for almost a year before I finally get something.
General rule is: If I don’t feel a flow in answering a question, then it’s a very bad idea to force it and I hate giving bullshit, generic answers, that anyone can give.
Clearly, I feel bad when I can’t give an answer because part of me feels that I should be able to, but on the other hand, I’m not the repository of information. Yes, I do get a lot of things that flow easily from me, but there are times when I feel a great resistance, and pursuing any answer will cause a massive drain on my energies.
In fact, trying to do something that doesn’t flow tends to be the biggest drain on psychic energies.
Contribution to psychic burn out: 8-9 out of 10
Those who ask the same question over and over until they get the answer they are looking for.
This type is the most frustrating. No matter how many times you give someone an answer, they will come back asking the same question in a different form. They will also ignore whatever you’ve just said, and also ignore any questions you’ve asked them.
The most frustrating thing with this type of person is that they are demanding, ungracious, and seem to think that you owe them something.
Generally, the answers they need to hear are not the answers they want to hear. In the end, the responsibility for knowing what is going on, or resolving their issues is their responsibility.
The problem with drain occurs when there is no equivalent energy exchange. You’ve put all you’ve got into helping this person, but you don’t receive anything in return.
Contribution to psychic burn out: 9-10 out of 10
Now, being altruistic, I would just love to help everyone all the time and fix up their lives for them, and answer all their questions, but I’ve found that it’s just not possible, at least, not without making myself very sick.
In the end, there is little choice but to shut down for a while and look after yourself.
Next: Should we charge for our services?
What I want to do with this entry is discuss if the Bach Flower Remedies are a placebo or not.
It is reasonable for people to be sceptical about the BFR’s and so they should be. I certainly was. When I first saw them around 1992, the claims they made about healing emotional conditions seemed a little too good to be true.
To my logical mind back then, I just couldn’t see how that was possible.
It is true that many claims are made about products that are false and misleading. There are a lot of scams out there. There are many unscrupulous people who use spiritual mumbo jumbo to sell their goods with the promise of healing on a miraculous level.
They are blatantly misleading and how they are allowed to advertise their products and get away with it is just beyond belief.
They hurt the products that are legitimate. It’s like looking for a diamond in a mountain of glass facsimiles. At first glance, it looks promising until you realize it’s just another fake.
I’ve come across my fair share of such scams, and I’m sure many others have, too.
The Bach Flowers seemed to fall under the same category, so it wasn’t until 1994 when I finally tried them.
A lady, who I was getting therapeutic massages from, explained that they did work. At the time, I was quite drawn to her, and hung on her every word (in fact, this turned out to be a soul call, which is a call for help on a spiritual level) but I didn’t know that back then.
So, I bought a few, tried them, and found that worked so well that it was remarked that I was on happy pills.
What really sold me was that, around that time, I received some really bad news about a business investment I had made. As it involved a partner, it made it worse. I had made this decision right before I started trusting my intuition. (Which advised me against it, but I didn’t know enough at the time to listen.)
Normally, I would have not been able to sleep due to mulling over it and worrying about what I had to do, the reactions, and so on, but I decided to take Star of Bethlehem, which is the remedy for shock and trauma.
I immediately felt a peace settle over me, and the problem didn’t bother me again and it did eventually resolve itself, like most things do.
I started trying them on other people and found that the remedies would have a calming effect, especially on my mother, who could be highly strung.
I found that by putting same Rescue Remedy on her wrist, she calmed right now. My mind told me this shouldn’t be possible, but the results were certainly real.
Next: Are they a placebo – Part 2
Bach Flower Remedies – Introduction
I hated being depressed. I hated it so much that I relentlessly pursued and tried everything that I could get my hands on. I tried herbs, psychic healers, meditation, therapies like Reiki and Kinesiology, crystals, aura-light, aura-soma, anti-depressants and just about anything else I could get access to. Each one I approached with optimism, and each one failed to produce the desired results.
There were times when I did have significant breakthroughs, and my depression lifted, and I had a new lease on life, but it returned a year or so later. Those breakthroughs, I should also hasten to mention were not connected with any therapies I was trying out at the time.
I had suffered from depression since I was around 13 years of age. Each year was a struggle, especially during Fall.
It wasn’t till I was 30 that I started using the Bach Flower Remedies. They are a simple, safe, non-addictive, non-toxic way to heal yourself on an emotional level. For instance, if you have a fear of spiders, that is classed as a known fear and taking Mimulus will help or even stop the fear, as that is the remedy for known fears.
I had ignored the remedies for a few years, thinking ‘yeah right!’ when I saw them at the health food shop. Then, one day, during a soul call, in which I was helping someone with a natural therapy business, I saw them being sold in their shop. I asked about them, and she explained what they did and how they worked.
I had a very strong pull to try, study and understand them. Over the course of several months, I bought books, all 38 remedies and committed to memory what all of them did, and what their names were.
Now, normally, my attention spam for trying something new ranges from two weeks to two years, and I will then just completely forget about whatever it is I’m trying.
The Bach Flower Remedies (BFR) were different through. Each time I used them, I felt a shift in my emotions. Learning about each remedy was exciting to me, and the positive results kept me going. Every time I suffered from depression, I would find the remedy I needed, and the depression would lift.
As the years went on, I started to understand them at a much deeper level, and realized that emotions are a tricky thing to identify. For instance, what might feel like fear and worry might actually be guilt.
Identifying what we are really feeling is vital to using the BFR’s with any degree of success.
I can state that I no longer suffer depression on the scale I once did. I still get feelings of anxiety, due to my empathy, but I am aware that’s not me, and I also know what I need to do to block it.
I do claim to know as much about the Bach Flowers as anyone in this world, and I also have made discoveries about them that had not been published before.
Hence, the majority of my discussion on healing depression will be BFR related and I will cover all aspects.
Depression can be healed. I truly believe and have experienced that. Not just covered up, not just glossed over, but healed.
The next series of blogs will look at and discuss the BFR’s objectively.
Next: Are they a Placebo?