Today is a minor rant on how I see too many parents treating their children.
It is said the children are our greatest resources. There’s certainly a lot of truth to that, and like many resources, children tend to get exploited by their parents or caretakers.
I’ve not had my own flesh and blood baby at this point in my life, (however I did bring up my step daughter from the age of nine for 7 years) so I speak on partial experience and my own philosophy in regards to this subject.
I believe that the child chooses their parents. The choice is made based on what they want to experience and need to accomplish n this life.
I know that I chose my ones very deliberately in this life. (Though next time I choose to incarnate in this world, someone give me a good swift kick to bring me to my senses!)
What I observe over and over again is that many parents act like they own their children. They feel they have the absolute right to dictate their life.
- Who they should be.
- What they should do.
- Who they should marry.
- What they may or may not do.
- If they have children or not.
And so on.
And many of these children are now adults in their 30s!
At what point do we stop using children as possessions and extensions of what we believe our lives should be like?
Personally, I believe that we are caretakers for our children. We do our best to provide a safe environment for them to grow up in, and give them the tools, wisdom, knowledge and experiences so that they can grow up being themselves: Hopefully healthy and well adjusted.
Yes, boundaries should be set and yes, we should be ever vigilant on their activities.
But we should not try to mould them into our image.
In fact, by attempting to do so, you may well end up with someone who is rebellious, neurotic or full of guilt. (Not to mention a high level empath!)
Our children are our greatest resource. Let us be their greatest resource, too.
Got your own experiences or comments? I’d love to see them.